Energy as source of attraction

During the past few weeks I felt a substantial variation of energy in me. I am talking about the energy that is conveyed by attractive, happy, extrovert, value-giving people. The kind of energy that characterizes a person who enjoys his time and makes everyone enjoy it with him. That is how I felt on New Years Eve after a week of Christmas vacation. After a great night out MindGame pointed out to me “Man, you really looked glad that night”. Quite a difference from last weekend when I almost fell asleep in the bar.

Fatigue caused by excessive workload and stress has repeatedly been classified as a main reason to an unhappy life  by many psychologists, health coaches and self help gurus. In a modern society full of deadlines and result expectations trying to cut down sleep sometimes is the only way to get spare time. But the necessity to fulfil your primary needs impedes the joy of whichever activity causing even more unhappiness.

I suppose everyone has experienced the frustration of hearing the alarm clock. The sound that every morning initiates a tiring conflict within your brain between the frontal lobe (the more sophisticated part of the brain responsible for long term planning) telling you to get up and go to work to grant your income and thereby your survival, and the primitive core shouting: SLEEEEP!!!! After a while these two come to a compromise. You press the snooze button…

And the snooze function works. During a night you oscillate between deep sleep and a stage of awakening. The above mentioned conflict occurs when you are in a phase of deeper sleep. After pressing snooze you fall asleep again but you will not reach the same depth of your sleep pattern before the alarm goes next time which gives the frontal lobe an advantage. 

The  sleep pattern is systematic. It is possible to trace your rhythm so that you adopt to get up when you are in a shallower phase of your sleep. That will make all the standard good- morning procedures easier but it will not limit your need for rest. A normal adult should have around eight hours of sleep every night to be in a state of mind that gives him a possibility to enjoy his entire day.

I have tried different methods to increase my awaken hours. From systematic reduction of sleep time to trying to increase vitamin production by exposing myself to UV-light of a solarium (scientific method, a hypothesis has to be tested).  But nothing worked. If you want to become more attractive, alert and able to project your happiness on your environment, forget all about vitamin pills, meditation etc… Get some rest.